When you have strong feelings for someone and feel that this person feels the same way, it's natural for you to want to make it official. This would make you think of ways to pop out the question in such a charming and compelling way.
It is also understandable that you'd want to make it special. After all, this is a monumental milestone in your relationship that you'll both remember for a long time.
There are many creative ways to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. It all depends on your character. Are you a romantic-type, a casual type, or a risk-taker? Stick to your guts and find out what will work and what won't work.
The most important thing is to execute it sincerely and with all honesty. If you're all set to take things to a whole new level with this special person, then it's indeed time to seal the deal.
Let's dig into the following approaches on how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend.
How to Ask a Girl to be Your Girlfriend Casually
If you're a casual type of guy or someone who's laid-back and spontaneous, do it casually. However, you have to figure out the perfect timing to pop out the question. It could be during a quiet walk at the park while watching the sunset or in your car after a dinner date.
The advantage of using the casual approach is that you don't have to make all the necessary preparations and planning. You just have to find that perfect timing during your private moment together and then ask the question upfront.
The casual approach is a no-fuss and no-nonsense approach that could take her by surprise, especially if you've been spending a lot of time together. However, asking the question straight away is what makes it exciting. Hence this approach is ideal for carefree guys that are confident enough to hear a girl's answer, whether it's a "yes" or a "no".
Apparently, it is a gutsy move to ask a girl if she can be your girlfriend out of the blue, but there's something special about it when you look back at that moment together. She may feel like you're cornering her with your question, but if she likes you just as much, it only takes a split second for her to respond positively. Here are some tips;
- Do it in private and in-person.
- Find the right time to ask the question.
- Express your sincerity by making eye contact with her.
- Sustain the momentum by holding her hand.
How to Ask a Girl to be Your Girlfriend If You're a Romantic Guy
Some guys are willing to go through odds and ends to make a girl feel special and loved. If you happen to be this type of guy, plainly asking a girl to be your girlfriend without preparation or "grand production" might not be enough. This makes you the romantic type of guy who will plan and create a picturesque setting to come up with a magical moment.
There are beauty and certainty in creating something special for the girl you like. Guys that are truly in love will do everything to make a girl happy. These include preparing a romantic dinner for two, creating a nice set-up with flowers, and even buying a symbolic gift that serves as a reminder of that moment, examples are a necklace, bracelet, or even a song.
How will you ask a girl to be your girlfriend if you're a romantic type of guy? Follow these steps to make it extra special;
- Plan the date and create a romantic atmosphere. A classic example is an intimate candlelit dinner for two with soft music, rose petals, and ambient lighting.
- Treat her like a lady and make her feel special. Give her a bouquet of flowers, act in a gentlemanly way, and make an effort to look your best.
- Ask the question and reveal your present to symbolize your honest intentions. Hold her hand while asking the question, maintain a straight face with a hint of a smile, and look straight into her eyes.
- As soon as she answers "yes", express your intention to make her happy without letting go of her hand.
If you're naturally romantic, you'll be able to pull this off without much effort. On her end, if she likes you just as much and appreciates your sweet gesture, she'll say "yes" in a heartbeat. So pay close attention to how she responds to your sweet gestures to avoid putting her in an uncomfortable situation.
How to Ask a Girl to be Your Girlfriend If You're a Nice Guy
This approach is useful for guys who seem to have trouble finding the right timing to ask the question or those who can't sustain the momentum due to their nervousness. As the saying goes, "if you cannot find perfect timing, create one".
How are you going to pull off this strategy? If you're close to asking her to become your girlfriend, you may already have an idea about her hobbies, interests, and passions. At this point, you are fully aware of the things that make her happy. Focus on those things and be that Mr. Nice Guy for her.
For example, if she loves outdoor activities, plan a hiking trip with her and arrange a nice picnic after. If she loves the beach, find a nice beach spot and take her there; and if she finds art fascinating, take her to a unique art exhibit she's never been to.
Other things that you might want to find out about her are; the places she wants to visit, her favorite restaurant, and the activities she wants to try.
The idea is to exert your best effort to give her a memorable date that is in-tune with her personality and interests. This can potentially draw her closer to you, and somewhere along the way, she'll get the message that you're serious about her.
Here's a quick guide that might help you out if you want to play the role of Mr. Nice Guy;
- Plan an activity she loves or drive together to one of her favorite places.
- Keep it fun, but find that perfect time to get into a serious conversation.
- Pay attention to how she responds to figure out if it's the right time to ask her to be your girlfriend.
- Tell her that you like her and that you want to make things official between the two of you. Here's a sample line; "I really like you and I want to spend more time with you, if you'll let me; and I've been wondering if you feel the same way, too."
- Look her in the eye and ask her the question, "will you be my girlfriend?"
How to Ask a Girl to be Your Girlfriend If You're a Shy Guy
If you're too shy to ask her to be your girlfriend, there are many other gimmicks you can consider that could help you deliver the message loud and clear. Remember, it's ok to feel nervous and shy. It takes a lot of guts and courage to ask a girl to officially become your girlfriend.
However, your shyness and lack of confidence should not stop you from asking her. Letting an opportunity pass you by will only leave you with a trail of regrets that could haunt you for a long time.
Here are some ways on how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend if you're too shy to tell her directly;
1. Get Classy with Flowers and Card.
Never underestimate the classic moves. These are the schemes that can make a girl giddy with excitement. If you're too shy to ask her the question verbally, give her a bouquet of her favorite flowers with a card that says; "Will you be my girlfriend? Smile if it's a yes" or "My only wish is to become your boyfriend. Will you be mine?"
You can get more creative with your words, just as long as you'll be able to get the message across as precisely as possible.
2. "Pop the Balloon".
Write your question on a small piece of paper, roll it up, and put it inside a balloon before inflating it. Give her the balloon and ask her to pop it if she wants to know exactly how you feel. This could buy her a few seconds or minutes to think about it.
If she doesn't pop the balloon, then perhaps she's not yet ready to take things on the next level with you. However, if the idea of popping the balloon excites her, it is a good sign that she's bound to say "yes" to becoming your girlfriend.
As soon as the balloon pops, ask her to read your note. Tell her to smile if it's a "yes" or to simply walk away if it's a "no". See what happens next, and whatever her answer is, give yourself a pat on the back for getting this far.
3. Sweets for My Sweet.
Send her a minimalist cake with the question, "will you be my girlfriend?" on it. This cute gesture may actually take her by surprise, but it's a sweet way to ask the question without blurting it out. You can consider are; chocolates with letters that spell the question or even cupcakes, doughnuts, and cake pops.
Visit a local pastry shop or candy store to uncover other viable options. The idea is to ask the question in the sweetest way possible – literally.
Come up with sweet (or funny) messages that are hard to resist. Here are some examples;
- "I love you. Do you feel the same way, too?"
- "Can you make my wish come true and be my girl?"
- "I can be yours. You can be mine. Would that be fine?"
- "I'll be very happy, if you can be my one and only. Please say YES."
- "Is it ok if I call you my girlfriend from now on?"
4. Put It in a Love Song.
What better way to express your feelings for her than through a love song? If you've got the talent, sing for her. You can pick a song that expresses exactly how you feel, or you may compose an original. It all depends on how creative and skillful you are.
It could be nerve-wracking to sing for a girl whom you want to become your girlfriend, but singing is the sincerest way to deliver a question that you're too shy to ask.
Singing is also perhaps one of the sweetest things that a guy can do for a girl. Who could say "no" to that? So if you are certain about your feelings for a girl and you can sense that she likes you, too. Put your feelings in a love song to express yourself better.
How to Ask a Girl to be Your Girlfriend If You're a Cool Guy
Not all guys have a romantic DNA within them. Some prefer to play it cool by just asking the question directly. If you're a guy who knows exactly how to ask a girl to become your girlfriend and you have no qualms about it, consider yourself "the man".
Seize the opportunity and just go for it. After all, good things happen to those who are willing to take the risk.
However, do not allow your cool personality to take the best of you. Expressing your sincerity and good intentions are still important regardless of how confident you feel. Even if you've been exclusively dating for quite some time, girls still appreciate guys who act in a gentlemanly manner.
Here are some bold moves you can try if you want to take the risk and play it cool with the girl you like.
1. Make a move to kiss her.
You've seen it on TV and on a lot of romantic movies. A boy kisses a girl spontaneously without saying a word, when the moment calls for it. If you're lucky enough to feel a sudden wave of physical attraction between the two of you, play it cool and just kiss her. Asking the question after sharing a warm kiss might just give you the answer that you've been dying to hear.
2. Flirt with her.
If you're an absolute risk-taker, try flirting with her and see how she responds. You may touch her lightly on her shoulders, arms, or waist as you engage in a conversation during your date. As you get touchy-feely with her, pop the question in the most unceremonious manner. Here are some ways to ask her the ultimate question;
- "I want you to be mine. Will you be my girl?"
- "Let's get serious and make it official. Will you be my girlfriend?"
- "I want you to be my girl. What do you say?"
- "We'll make a good couple. What do you think?"
- "We make such a good pair. How would you like to be my girl?"
- "Can you make me the happiest guy in this room by being my girl?"
Conclusion: Give It Your Best Shot
Whatever the circumstances are, give it your best shot if you want her to become your girlfriend. Trust your instincts to find the perfect timing and the right opportunity to ask the question. Lastly, don't be afraid of rejection. Whatever the outcome is, you deserve "two thumbs up" for mustering the courage to ask her.