Has He Stopped Loving You? 13 Signs to Find Out

When you’re in a relationship, sometimes you reach a point where things feel a little off. He may not be as sweet as he once was, feelings may have started to fade, or he may have settled too comfortably into the relationship, making you wonder if he still loves you. While not all relationships experience this, it’s natural to question whether he has stopped loving you.

Signs he doesn’t love you anymore

1. He talks to you less now.

When you first start dating someone, communication is usually frequent, maybe even multiple times a day, with an ongoing conversation. As the relationship progresses, communication may become less frequent but still consistent as the relationship becomes more solid and you both feel more secure.

However, if your partner talks to you significantly less, it may indicate their feelings have changed. Pay attention to what they are sharing with you and if they are still sharing the same amount of information about their day or thoughts. When someone no longer loves you, they tend to stop opening up and may talk to you less in general.

2. He avoids being seen with you in public.

When you are in a relationship, it is natural to want to spend time doing things together, whether it’s running errands, going on a date, or grabbing food. You look forward to spending time with your partner and doing any activity together.

You expect this to be reciprocated, but if your partner doesn’t love you anymore, you may notice they do not want to go out with you as much. They may try to avoid spending time with you in public and make excuses to go out alone.

They may not be aware that they are doing this, but it may be an attempt to create an image without you and begin searching for their next love interest.

3. He dodges serious conversations.

He probably won’t engage in serious conversations with you if he no longer loves you. He may have already closed off his heart and no longer sees a future with you, yet he may not know how to end the relationship or what to do next.

Consequently, he may avoid bringing up topics such as starting a family, getting married, buying a home together, or even getting a pet – anything that could tie him down to you. If you attempt to initiate these discussions, he will likely dodge them to avoid revealing his true feelings.

4. He’s quick to lose his patience with you.

When a guy loves you, he tends to have more patience with you when it comes to things that could easily annoy him. Overall, he’s more understanding, and it seems like few things really get to him. Unfortunately, one of the most telling signs that he doesn’t love you anymore will be his impatience towards you.

Suddenly you’ll notice that he has no tolerance for your silliness that he once found cute; now, he finds it annoying. If you’re too clingy, it’s annoying. If you want attention, it’s annoying. Everything is suddenly annoying or inconvenient for him, and that’s because he’s losing his patience with you as he has stopped loving you.

5. He’s become less considerate towards you.

If he doesn’t love you anymore, he won’t be as considerate of you. He won’t ask about your preferences or what you want, as he doesn’t really care anymore, and it may not even cross his mind as it once did. Now, he’ll pick what he wants, whether it’s what you’re having for dinner together, what movie you’ll watch, or anything else. He’s only focused on his wants and needs because he doesn’t feel the same way about you anymore.

6. He’s not making time for the relationship.

When someone loves you, they make time for you. It doesn’t matter if their job is demanding, they travel frequently, or they have a lot going on. When a guy loves you, he prioritizes the relationship no matter what.

Some days he may have more time than others, but he always makes an effort to spend time with you. If you notice the complete opposite happening, it’s most likely because he doesn’t love you anymore.

7. There isn’t as much intimacy as there once was.

Having intimate moments with your partner when you’re in a relationship is crucial. It’s what sets you apart from being just friends and being in a relationship, as you’re sharing intimate moments and things about yourself that you probably don’t share with other people.

Whether you’re sharing intimate moments or having intimate conversations, intimacy is there. If intimacy is becoming scarce, it could be a sign that he doesn’t love you anymore.

8. Your intuition is telling you.

When you know, you know. You can call it a gut feeling, an intuition you have, a sense you’re getting, basically there’s something deep inside you that’s just telling you that he doesn’t love you anymore. Really, you’re probably noticing, subconsciously, certain things that are indicating this, but nonetheless, you feel like something is really off about your relationship.

9. He makes you feel more like roommates than a couple.

There’s a major difference between living with someone who is your roommate and living with someone who you’re in a relationship with. When you’re living with a roommate, you’re probably not going out of your way to do special things for them. You don’t make an effort to spend time together eating meals, cooking together, going to bed together, or waking up together.

But when you’re in a relationship, you do those things. So, if your relationship is starting to feel like that, and he’s treating you more like a roommate than a partner, you know he’s not in love with you anymore.

10. You notice his attention has shifted to someone else.

This may be the worst sign to notice, but unfortunately, it does happen sometimes. You may start to notice that your boyfriend isn’t just noticing you, but he’s noticing other girls as well. He might be complimenting other people but not complimenting you, trying to spend more time with someone else, or even talking more to someone else than you. These should be taken as red flags and a huge sign that he no longer loves you.

11. He’s not the same person you fell in love with.

Sometimes people change, and maybe he has also changed along the way. If he has gone through many changes, he is probably not the same person you fell in love with, which means that he might have changed his feelings for you too. If you notice major changes, you might want to ask him how he feels about the relationship with you because it’s possible he doesn’t love you anymore.

12. He forgets important dates.

When someone is in love, they tend to remember special dates such as birthdays, anniversaries, or any other significant days you shared. Sometimes there might be a lot going on, and he might forget, which is normal every now and then. However, if he forgets too frequently, it is not so normal, and it could be taken as a sign that he doesn’t love you anymore.

13. He doesn’t have kind gestures with you.

Someone who’s not in love with you anymore isn’t going to make kind gestures toward you. He won’t do things like open the door for you, remember to pick up one of your favorite things to surprise you, get you flowers, etc. He’s no longer in love with you like he once was, so those acts of kindness have probably come to an end.

Conclusion

It’s never easy to realize that the guy you still have feelings for doesn’t love you anymore, but it happens. It’s better to know the signs to look out for than to be blindsided by him one day when he finally decides to talk about it. If you can spot the signs, it will also give you a chance to leave him instead of just waiting around for the inevitable end.