16 Signs He Doesn’t Like You More Than a Friend

Sometimes you think you could like your friend more than a friend, or you’ve been getting mixed signals, and you’re not really sure what’s going on between the two of you. Below you’ll find a list of signs confirming that he doesn’t like you more than a friend.

1. He encourages you to approach other men

If a guy is encouraging you to approach other men, it’s because he doesn’t have feelings for you. He doesn’t think about you like that. So to him, it’s normal to encourage you to put yourself out there and connect with other people.

Sometimes guys will do this when they have feelings for you and don’t want to admit it or make it into a thing, but usually, they do it because they have no intention of being with you and simply see you as a friend and nothing more.

2. He is excited about a girl he met

If he’s getting excited about a girl, it’s because he’s not into you in a romantic way. Especially if he shares his excitement about the girl, then you really know that he only sees you as a friend.

3. He avoids meeting you at night

You may have noticed that he makes plans with you, but never at night. That’s because plans at night can often turn into something more romantic, or they can be interpreted that way.

He doesn’t want to risk having you think he’s asking you on a date because he wants to avoid that confusion since he only likes you as a friend. Unless you’re hanging out as a group, he will probably avoid making plans with you at night.

4. He asks about someone or one of your girlfriends

It’s obvious he doesn’t like you more than a friend if he’s asking you about someone you know or your close friends. If he’s trying to get you to help him out and make sure they know he’s interested in them, or he’s trying to find out if one of your friends is interested in him, it’s because he’s not interested in you, and he doesn’t care if you’re interested in him.

5. He repeatedly refers to you as a friend

If he’s making it a point to call you a friend, he’s trying really hard to friendzone you. He wants it to be crystal clear that he only thinks of you as a friend. You’ll probably hear him introduce you to people as his ‘good friend’, or he’ll make sure to find other ways to bring up how you’re a great friend to him.

6. He avoids physical contact

It’s normal for friends to greet each other with a hug or some kind of nice gesture besides just a wave or simple ‘hi’. However, if he really wants you to know that he doesn’t like you more than a friend, then you’ll notice that he skips over the nice greetings and tends to have simpler greetings.

This is because he avoids all kinds of physical contact to avoid giving you the wrong idea and keep some boundaries in place. He wants to avoid confusion and makes sure you know your place in his life.

7. He asks for your opinion about certain women

He trusts you and wants to know what you think about women he’s interested in because he wants your approval, but it’s not because he can’t have you; he values your friendship.

Be careful not to get that mixed up, and understand that if he’s asking for your opinion about other women, he’s definitely not interested in you romantically.

8. He doesn’t like to hangout one on one with you

Typically, even with friends of the opposite sex, it’s normal to casually get something to eat together once in a while or see each other one-on-one to catch up, especially if you are close friends.

However, when a guy wants to make it clear that he doesn’t like you more than a friend, he will probably avoid seeing you one-on-one because he doesn’t want to give you the wrong idea.

He doesn’t want to risk you thinking that the two of you getting something to eat is a date or cause any confusion whatsoever.

9. He’s never flirted with you

When a guy doesn’t like you more than a friend, he’s not going to flirt with you, not even a little bit. Some guys have flirty personalities, and they end up flirting with everyone, sometimes not even realizing that they’re doing so, but if he’s really not into you, despite having a flirty personality, he’s not going to flirt with you.

10. He doesn’t try to impress you

He’s not doing anything to show off and get your attention. He doesn’t try hard when he’s around you because he has no intention of impressing you, and when a guy really likes a girl, he will pull out all of his best tricks to impress her.

11. He’s not in contact with you all of the time

When a guy likes you, he messages you frequently, even if he’s a bad texter. He ensures he’s responding to your messages throughout the day and calls or checks in on you. If he doesn’t talk to you for one day, it’s weird.

However, when a guy doesn’t like you more than a friend, you’ll notice that he doesn’t try very hard when talking to you or messaging you, and sometimes he may even forget to reply for a few days.

He knows you’re not going anywhere and that he doesn’t have to worry about impressing you or keeping your attention because you’re buddies.

12. He feels a little too comfortable with you

When a guy forgets his manners around you, it’s because he’s a little too comfortable with you, and that’s a sign that he’s not interested in being more than friends with you.

If he were, you’d never hear him burp until he locks you down and can relax around you. Before that, a guy is always on his best behavior and has the best manners to impress the girl he’s after.

13. He tries to set you up with other guys

He’s trying to find suitable men for you and help you go on dates. That’s a good sign that he doesn’t like you more than a friend. Especially if he’s not bothered by his guy friends talking to you and trying to take you out.

14. He’s never tried anything with you

You can know for sure that he doesn’t like you more than a friend if he’s never tried anything with you. He’s never tried doing anything, no matter how innocent it could be. He’s never held your hand or tried putting his arm around you. Those things can be very innocent and subtle, but he hasn’t even tried that.

15. He’s never gotten jealous of you

Whenever you bring up another guy, he doesn’t get jealous, even if you go on and on about that person for hours and hours. He doesn’t mind listening to you gush about your crush. That only happens when he doesn’t like you more than a friend.

He doesn’t care if you have plans with other guys or if you’re going on lots of dates because he only sees you as a friend.

16. His friends don’t tease the two of you

When a guy likes someone, his friends know. Of course he’s going to tell his friends about the girl he has a crush on, and his friends will probably tease him about you or tease the two of you if they see you together. If his friends don’t tease him at all when they see him with you, then you know for sure that he doesn’t like you more than a friend.

What to Do if He Doesn’t Like You More Than a Friend

Dealing with rejection or simply processing the idea that he doesn’t like you more than a friend can be difficult, but these are some things you should keep in mind:

• Think about whether or not you can still be friends with him: Take a minute to think about if you can really put any feelings you may have for him behind you and truly just be friends. In some situations, this isn’t possible, and that’s okay, but it’s important to give yourself the time and space you need to be able to determine this accurately.
• Be understanding and respectful: If he doesn’t like you more than a friend, you need to be able to respect that decision and not cross the boundaries he’s set with you. You’re going to have to find a way to understand that he’s simply not interested in you.
• Move on: The best thing to do if he doesn’t like you more than a friend is to move on. This doesn’t mean you must distance yourself from him or terminate your friendship completely. It means that you will have to be okay with seeing him date other people and possibly lean on you when he has a hard time with a girl or maybe ask for advice. You just have to be willing to put everything behind you and move forward, knowing that you’ll only ever be just friends.

In conclusion

You can look out for several signs if you’re not too sure where you stand with him and if you want to know if he does or doesn’t like you more than a friend.

Some of the best ones to consider are if he gets jealous of other guys that go out with you or when you talk to other guys, if he tells you about the women he’s interested in, or if he’s totally okay with you dating his friends or tries to date your friends. Those are all pretty solid indicators that he doesn’t like you more than a friend.