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What is Pegging? Everything You Need to Know

What is Pegging? Everything You Need to Know

By Grant R. | December 29, 2019

If you haven’t heard of the term “pegging” yet, you and your partner are totally missing out on some truly kinky sex. In fact, pegging has become so popular just within the last several years and is possibly one of the fastest rising sexual acts and sexual fantasies on the planet. 

So then, What is pegging?

Pegging is basically when you and your partner switch gender roles, the woman becomes the man with a strap-on penis and the man becomes the woman with his....well, anus.

Now, we know what you’re thinking, what straight man would like something such as a dildo in his ass?

The answer would surprisingly shock you. And the fact that a man’s “g-spot” can be stimulated much quicker near the anus with a little prostate massage, should really tell you that pegging isn’t quite as bad as you might think it is.

Men really shouldn't be as afraid of their butt as they are. They might even experience immense orgasms they've never had before by practicing anal stimulation.

How Pegging Works

Strap-on sex and anal stimulation

Before you click the X in the corner, hear us out. Then check reddit, Cosmo, and even Marie Claire - you’ll see just how popular the art of pegging has become. 

As stated previously, pegging is quite simple. The woman will reverse her role to becoming the man doing the penetrating, by wearing a strap-on. The man will then be the woman using his anus as his vagina to be penetrated. 

It is not just about the role switching and even the role-playing that turns most couples on, but also the feelings that come with it, the power you feel during the act, and of course the act of sex altogether - being able to feel penetration from a different perspective.

Where Did Pegging Originate From?

The word pegging itself was first seen in 1998, when an educational film for men “Bend Over Boyfriend” debuted, speaking on anal stimulation for men. Fatale Media produced this film to offer techniques to couples looking to try something new in the bedroom.

However, the term became most popular in 2001 when a man named Dan Savage ran a contest on his love and advice column, Savage Love. The contest was all about this act of pegging, and how it seemed to be fading away from the limelight. 

Even with the term fading from society, once a winner was announced for his pegging contest, the term then began to grow once again. Thanks, Dan!

Pegging Tips & Techniques You Might Want to Try

First things first, you and your partner must both decide if this is something you both want to do. Obviously, if one of you is not OK with the act - don’t do it.

But if you both are ready to try it, we suggest using some tips and techniques below.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

Once you have both agreed on the sexual act, make sure you both let each other just how you would like things to go. Would you like it hard? Fast? Slow? Are you into anything else that we haven’t tried? Literally, anything goes right now.

You both must decide how you wish to practice this new stunt, and you both must be in agreement. If you don’t communicate your feelings and fantasies out to one another, it might be a not so pleasurable experience for you both.  

Use lube - and lots of it

You can’t go wrong with lube, but you could go wrong without it, so make sure you stock up - especially if this is your first time. Remember that more lube is better than not enough. As long as you don't forget that, it won't hurt.

There’s not much more to say about the topic of lubrication, both sexes should know just how important this little tube is when it comes to sex, so use what you know when it comes to "lubing" it up.

Pick out the strap-on together

If you’re both open-minded enough to perform the act, you can both be open-minded enough to purchase the toy for the act - together. Besides, wouldn’t it be better having your partner there to ease your mind about buying the perfect toy for both of you?

He will be able to decide what looks to be best for him, and she will be able to decide what works best for her, all at the same time. Buying a toy that won’t please but instead hurt your partner would just end up killing the entire mood altogether. 

Also, she must be able to maneuver the toy in the way she needs to, so both parties being present on the date of purchase will put the whole argument for what’s best at rest.

Foreplay on the days before

If this is your first or thirtieth time pegging, lots of foreplay before the day of the sexual act will create an entire mood around it. She’ll be ready to peg and he’ll be ready to take it.

Much like “regular sex” for a lack of a better term, pegging needs foreplay too, maybe more than the average bed session.

Give him prostate massages until he cums, allow her to take lead during sex or during foreplay to boost her self-esteem, things like this will just build-up to the day of and create one hell of a pegging experience.

Consider using vibration

This may fall into your toy's hands and you could just vouch for a vibrator altogether, or you could find another way to stimulate and vibrate the toy yourself.

However you decide to provide for this ride, vibration almost always causes the ‘big finish’ for both men and women.

Be slow and careful

Unless otherwise asked, it is always the best idea to ease it in very slowly and carefully, listening to your partners every cry. Women know this more than men, that it can be super painful if you just jam your member in there - the same goes for strap-ons in a man’s anus.

Starting slowly and carefully and then ending with a knock out is a totally different story, but for most newcomers, slow and steady will win the race just fine.

Use your words

It’s ok to speak what you feel during sex, during foreplay, and during pegging. In fact, it’s widely encouraged. How else will we know what you like or don’t like?

Both the man and the woman should let their partner know if something doesn’t feel right, just as much as they should let them know that something feels amazing.

Straight Men’s Thoughts on their Pegging Experience

Let’s be honest, when it comes to pegging, it seems like this is only enjoyable for the female counterpart as she gets to be in control and be the dominant one. Not to mention she must find it enjoyable to humiliate her man and have him be the one “taking” this time, right?

Furthermore, people like to think that if a man takes anything in his anal canal, he must be gay - or bi. This couldn’t be the furthest from the truth. In fact, plenty of straight men love this sex act with their girlfriends and wives, and we’ve gathered up all of the amazing reasons why.

One 33-year-old male “pegger” says that he never tried it until his 30’s, as he was always curious about prostate stimulation. He feels that pegging added a new dimension to his life and his sex life, whereas before it was so traditional and cliche.

Another male pegging enthusiast says it’s nothing more than another fetish, and it shouldn’t be looked at as any more taboo than someone who loves being choked and spanked. Another pegging lover says that it turns him on to see his woman so dominant in the bedroom.

One of our most favorite reasons to love pegging comes from an older male who suffers from erectile dysfunction and he says that once he decided to try pegging, it took the focus off of his penis and it allowed him to perform ten times better in the bedroom than ever before.

Another amazing reason for pegging according to a straight male who loves it is the fact that he said it brought him and his girlfriend so much closer together. They’ve built trust and respect with one another that they just did not have before the activity started taking place.

So while it might sound horrendous to the straight male whose never tried it, that ever so popular saying stands out in mind. “Don’t knock it ‘till you try it.”

So, You Think You’re Ready to Peg?

If you’ve read this article, and numerous others about pegging and your partner say they’re ready to give it go, what are you waiting for?

Chances are he won’t want to jump right into this any more than she will, so you’ve got a couple days of foreplay and anal stimulation ahead of you.

Pegging has become super popular over the last several years, and you won’t be the first or the last to try it out, so don’t be ashamed to tell your partner that you want to try it.

Worse comes to worst if they say no, you could always ask them to tell you what kind of sexual act they would like to do and then just do that instead.

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Scott Haines

January 2, 2020, 12:04 pm

Ok i aint gonna lie, i’m a dude and reading this hurt my butt cheeks. But then i read the part about the guys, the straight guys, saying they liked pegging and ...now im curious. I can’t say im excited but i have to know what this is like now. And knowing that other guys love it and their girls give it to them, makes me want to ask my girl to do this with me.

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